Life lesson by a Tiny Warrior

Today in the morning while I was in hurry to kick start my routine day, one tiny thing held my attention. It was this:

This is a normal, not so good image, right? There is nothing much attention seeking, right? Now have a look on larger picture:

The above image explains it all. One may see the broken tiles or the imprints of white wash or the old fashioned dull wall or the gas pipeline or for that matter, the uneven plants. But can one see the centre point in this, the source of motivation? Yes, it is that small tiny creature firmly standing at the base of the wall. Its peeping slightly out through the hole of wall and trying to understand what the world outside the boundaries is.

This tiny plant is having a lot of similarity with our lives. It gives an explanation to many of our doubts.

Often we follow the patterned rules and roads in our life. We hesitate to take steps or live a life which is not similar to that of others or opposite to the societal rules. We resist to step on the roads not taken. We prefer to blindly follow the crowd rather than following what our real self wants.

Every one of us have got different fingerprints. Just imagine what the nature in itself is explaining to us by this. It educates us that each individual has his or her own existence and life. There is no differentiation by the nature. My question to you is when we are different then why do we follow the patterns or dogmas? Why don’t we understand what does we want or what is our liking, strengths and weaknesses? Why don’t we explore ourselves in the given circumstances and then set our life goals? There is no ‘by default button’ in our life. Goals and life must be led as per what you want (after a constructive research) and what is possible in the atmosphere in which you live. Instead, we follow what other’s are planning for themselves. Often we prefer to abide the societal norms. It’s good to abide but how many times you tried to understand the underlying concept behind the norm. Nothing is permanent, we need to asses whether that norm is still applicable or not. We don’t prefer to take the untraveled roads (life patterns).

Whenever there is anything outside the societal or own made imaginary boundaries, we resist our steps further. Also, we often hide behind our circumstances, our life, family and fellows, the materialistic or immaterialistic resources and give explanations of following the patterns. The tiny plant in image is not aiming to grow under the safe shadow of its elder buddies. It’s even not lamenting by giving excuses like, “other big plants have taken up the resources (food via soil) by expansion of roots or I am not given the opportunity or I was not given the proper care or I am alone etc.”

The tiny one has chosen what it wants in the given scenario. It may be exposed to harsh realities of the outside world. But its gathering great courage and strength to take tiny steps ahead.

There is one more benefit when we follow unpatterned paths. Anyhow the ultimate result is of two types: success or failure. There isn’t a middle path for goals. So, on each path the result is going to be one among the two types.

Also, if we try and understand the unexplored situation in terms of probability (scientifically), then the better chances of winning is in the case where there is lesser number of people competing. In today’s technologically advanced global world, opportunities are numerous. But the only thing which matters is to tap them at the right moment with full preparation. But with the growing population and awareness the competition is increasing rapidly, this is a threat.

You never know that from a tiny warrior (in above image) you may transform into this:

And from a surviving warrior (above image) you may transform by going through a rough road and taking pains into the following:

The paths on both sides ie the crowded one and the unexplored one are tough and there is no hundred percent sure shot success formula. But one thing is for sure, you in the latter case will be satisfied that, “Yes I lived like a warrior, confident about my own potentials, I took my own decisions by brainstorming.”

You will have that contententment of at least trying and pushing yourself to your own decisions. The motivation will come automatically as the decision will be of your choice. You will enjoy each phase of the process. You will learn a lot throughout the process of setting goals, preparation, assessment, execution and finally the result.

Success or failure depends on character and vision rather than external factors like circumstances or near ones.

Sneha Shrivastava

Dear friend

Dear friend, times are tough and dull. I know, you are trying hard to make everything fall at right place, but it isn’t happening.

Don’t you worry as this will change. Fresh air will fill up your life, replacing the baggage and burdens. Once again, the life will present you with its vivid beauty. There will be liveliness, cheerfulness and peace all around. Your hardwork and efforts will reap into a giant tree.

Meanwhile two things you need to hold which are patience and hope. Have patience, continue to live each day with positivity and hold your hope very strongly in addition to it. It’s always motivating to have dreams, do dream. Do you know why? It is because dreams act like blueprints of your project named “life”. Hope gives you confidence to execute it. Patience acts like a catalyst to move just a little bit more.

Self clicked

Believe it, there is the rising Sun, waiting for you just a little far away, I can see it. Its eagerly waiting for you to meet. Its having full faith in you and so is alone standing there. I too am having faith on you. Come, hold me and walk!

When we will reach there we will see the beautiful world. From there the sky will be more blue with a reddish tinge. The birds will fill in melodious music in the background. The nature will be lively, colouring vibrance in the landscape. We will feel serenity and peace comforting us. You and me sitting on top of a hill along with the rising reddish orange sun will cherish the happiness and contentment embracing us.

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With all my love

Your heart!

Reflection on the eve of Martyr’s day

Some college friends were chatting amongst themselves. They all started a game where each one had to define “modernity aspects” in their life.

There were numerous viewpoints of modernity ranging from shopping brands, having stylish phones, using slangs, doing adventures, getting drunk, having numerous relationships, nuclear families, increasing divorces and break-ups, exploring new places, being loud mouthed, having short temper, maintaining a classy lifestyle, intolerance etc.

There were few more opinions like being educated, application of knowledge, having healthy lifestyle, better jobs etc.

One answer surprised everyone in the group. A simple minded girl said, “The aspects of modernity in her life are having patience, relaxed mind, very less anger, no shouts or slangs or foul words in language, tolerance towards others, respect for all humans, animals and nature, employing knowledge in life, stepping in other’s shoes and understanding their life, non aggressive and non-violent debates, even if the opponents are howling at the top of their voices, dedicated and trustworthy relationships, healthy lifestyle, no alcoholism etc, taking adventures, having fun and enjoying every part of life.”

There was an absolute silence. Everyone in the room was aghast with her points. Ultimately out of curiosity and restlessness, one of her dear friend asked, “Don’t you feel that’s not modernity but boring old fashioned pattern of living?”

“Who defined it?”, asked the girl.

Her highly impatient friend now said,” Everyone does the opposite these days. These characteristics are no longer practiced or applicable. They are dead now.”

“No, they aren’t. It’s just people have started blindly following what everyone else is doing, without understanding whether that thing is necessary or not. We humans are behaving as per others perception. Shout, cheat, be angry because that shows one is courageous. Have drinks, maintain many non serious relationships because that shows how cool one is. Maintain brands, classy lifestyle or speak slangs or foul words, tell lies every second for no reason, be egoist, do not respect others as all this signify high status and superior attitude. This is the reality. We have to be broad minded and analytical. Understanding real meaning of quality modern life is absolutely necessary”, replied the innocent girl.

To her amazement, her dear friend asked, “But how can one with less temper, being patient, soft spoken, having less arguments, maintaining low pitch be modern?”

“Just have a look around yourself. What do you find? People are stressed, full of anger, hurt, sad, shattered, extremely impatient etc. They aren’t relaxed and calm. Style, class, status are exhibited when fewer individuals practice it amongst many. When individuals are few and different, they outshine. How many people have you seen happy inside-out, soft spoken, social and successful but not egoist, intelligent but not arrogant, efficient non-violent debators etc? Handful right! So, who is having higher standards? It’s pretty difficult and adventurous to be calm and pleasing person among shouting, fighting, lying, arrogant dark images. That’s why it’s stylish to be different”, answered the naive girl.

Her friend asked, “Two final queries, how can one imbibe these qualities? And secondly, can one sustain in modern society with these attributes?”

The simple girl with a broad smile said,” It’s very easy to imbibe. Just keep your eyes and focus on judging yourself rather than others. Criticize and correct yourself. Introspect, change, grow and work upon yourself each day. Compete with yourself to overcome lures and wrong habits. Each individual on this Earth has a positive point, start searching for that very point, try and understand other’s life, respect and tolerate relationships as you are also tolerated by others. It’s a mutual effort to be happier. Spread smiles for free, people need it.

And for the second question will these characteristics sustain in present societies. Yes of course, it will perfectly shine and succeed. These are the golden gems of all time. These characteristics were established and made to sustain in any era. Do you know we celebrate 30th January as Martyr’s day in India. It’s the death anniversary of the great Mahatma Gandhi. You know why he is called great because he helped India to achieve its freedom on the foundation pillar of unity and non violence. These characteristics do not make one dumb and exposed. Rather these give a person valuable insights to surpass any blocks or situations. The ones who practice it become more learned and proactive, becoming a brighter people with sharper minds.

Lets now become modern in real sense of the word.

The Precious Life

Life is uncertain and small. We humans just run behind materialistic and lifeless aims and objects such as money, status, power, luxury, assets, high profiled work etc. The reality is all this doesn’t worth in front of relationships and inbuilt happiness.
We in this mad race have forgotten the real virtues such as smile, joy, care, sharing, ethics, respect, fun and taste of all types of emotions.
We don’t know what’s next then why to take stress, worry about unknown and get depressed. Come let’s start living our life. Let’s spread the most precious gifts like smile, love and happiness with all our open hearts.

Let’s say hello!

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In a world full of numerous lives, humans often feel lonely in crowd. Loneliness is becoming a potential future threat for the civilization. In many research globally, it is often concluded that non communicable diseases are emerging as most encountered ones.

But have you ever imagined what is the reason behind this? The major issue with most of us is that we are not internally happy or we consider our lives as a baggage or we aren’t satisfied with ourselves, our life, or those surrounding us. This in turn make us more aloof and lonely. We feel sad. This emotional low triggers our physical fitness. Due to our prolonged, continuous stressed and depressed condition, we give invitation to someone. Not humans, but to the diseases and illness. And it’s a vicious cycle, until and unless we help ourselves, we just keep on walking in the darkness.

The above image holds a truth. We are not alone. Believe it, we do have a lot of well wishers. It is just people (all of us) are so preoccupied and engrossed in our not so busy lives that we have no time for others. Sometimes it is irony that we have time for technology and gadgets but not for real living humans and nature.

In India, there was a very good culture where everyone used to wake up before the rising sun. Left for work by the sunrise. Each one performed all the tasks dutifully and cheerfully. Then took out the time to cherish the handmade chapatis and sometimes raw onion or any local vegetable with some jaggery (gud). Thereafter by sunset all were back home. Had dinner. Thereafter people sat in groups outside of their houses. They had discussions, chats amongst themselves. Also, they used to sing songs, crack jokes and had fun during this sociological interaction. This is still practiced in few parts of real rural villages of India.

This lifestyle of rural India was the essence of physical well-being and long lives of people. They had a social life apart from individual life. Today, our life is much easy and sorted, but we have missed an essential component of our life – the social aspect.

There is this proverb “Man is a social animal.” Yes, we are and our mind, heart and soul needs interactions to be happy and lively. It charges our discharged batteries just like a charger.

Year 2020 is approaching. Why not we just adopt a small part of rural Indian lifestyle? Let’s interact wholeheartedly. Okay, we can’t spend each day sitting outside of our homes. But we surely can call or meet one person. Don’t talk for hours. Just tell the person that you remembered him or her today. Make the person happy and glad. Let the person feel special for that day. Let the person live the real life that day. Let the person know that there is someone who is around and that he is not alone. Life is a circle, start and take the initiative. One day no wonder you will also get a call to feel special.

Come let’s go back to our valuable, natural, scientific and worthy rural lifestyle to be healthy and cheerful once again.

Dream and strive ahead, it’s ok to fail!

“I dream and I am made that ways”, said the brain. Man replied, “No, you are not allowed to as you don’t think about difficulties, adventures, challenges or for that matter the failures before dreaming.”

Most of us have experienced the above scenario at one or the other point of life. The way we deal and react in the situation sets our journey. Our future rests on one small powerful decision. It makes or breaks us.

Why is the thing we fear about? Why many of us don’t dream? Why we are afraid of failures, shortcomings? Why we look forward to only a well settled plan and if there is a minutest problem, our world is topsy-turby?

Let us take each thing one by one.

Dream

It’s essential to dream. When we dream, we are indirectly honing the analytical skills of our brain. And so, the more it practices, the better it becomes. Initially, a dream may sound weird or out of the box, but it is ok. At least your mind is trying hard to utilise it’s potentials. Secondly you never know your dream may convert into reality with all perseverance and effort. Also, by constructive dreaming, one may get to know more about himself or herself. There will be more clarity in life. One can learn many things from experiences.

Fear of failure

Failures are the stepping stones to success. If someone is failing, the person is far better than those who are not even trying. For winning anything, one needs to step in the arena. When one will tire oneself, his or her sweat and blood will flow , only then the chances of success can develop.

Remember failures are one of the best mentors. They guide us towards our potentials, the areas to brush upon, new avenues to venture upon, our traits and personality, our mistakes. Failures are like the analysis in mid journey.

And journey is never ever restricted to one goal or path. Our life in itself is a journey. We need to understand that each day is a new day, a new beginning, a new chance to start afresh. Each day has one or few goals to deal with, each day we either win or miss few things. Our whole life is a combination of numerous uncountable goals to be dearmt or succeded about.

Don’t restrict yourself in the shanties and bondages of restricted thinking. I would like to write self written lines which often give me strength to rise again after each failure:

“ए इंसान, ये ज़िन्दगी का परवाना है,
यहां रोज़ संभलना और संभल के गिरना,
और गिर के फिर उठ जाना है।
मजबूरियां भी होंगी, कठिनाइयां भी होंगी,
किन्तु तुमको चलते जाना है।
चुनतियों को पार करना है,
और हिमालय की चोटी पर ,
अपने साहस का परचम लहराना है।

Here is a motivational video, please have a look at it. It is quite inspiring and reminds us to introspect. The best lines in this are:

“Imagine you are on your death bed and standing around your death bed are the ghosts representing your unfulfilled potential, the ghosts of the ideas you never acted on, the ghosts of the talents you didn’t use. And they are standing around your bed, angry, disappointed and upset. They say we came to you because you could have brought us to life and now we have to go to the grave together.
So I ask you today,how many ghosts are going to be around your bed when your time comes?”

You are the lucky one!

Don’t complain about your life, it’s too good to be happy. It’s ok to fail. If one is going through those circumstances, that person is above many, having an opportunity to look beyond. And that person is way more courageous and successful than those who belittle that person. Please take out some time to watch this motivational video:

Always remember to smile, to hope, to take roads not taken, to be confident, to hold your head high and to trust yourself and your abilities.

The silent morning says so…

It was around 3:52 AM in the morning when the light went out. I woke up with the irritating noise of fan running on inverter and decided to read something rather than sleeping again. I opened the doors and windows and switched off the fan. It was an absolute silence. This silence triggered the peace inside me. This reintroduced me to myself away from the crowd of my own thoughts. The silence outside established an absolute silence inside me. It rejuvenated my spirits.
By this time the clock hands crossed 4 o clock, I picked up a book and started reading.
Sometime later two birds were my company: the Cuckoos, telling me something. Their beautiful music brought in the happiness. They reminded me to halt rather than running in the mad race forgetting the present. They taught me how beautiful the life is when one just enjoys every moment around. How lovely it is to sing without being conscious! They taught me that every morning brings in new hopes, the opportunity of earning and living the day wholly. Let it be any circumstance, start with all your enthusiasm and positivity around.
And it was the time for the old mosque (located nearby) to pray its namaz. In this pin drop silence, with chirping of birds, I could hear the prayers. It reminded me the old times, the childhood, when the spirits were high and fear was absent. The courageous in childhood was replaced with the fears of the imaginary shortcomings. The carefree attitude was replaced by extra consciousness. How the relaxing calm mind with hopes was replaced by the stress in this mechanised world. 
Yes, even the morning, whispered something in silence. It reminded me to be childlike again and live the life rather than dragging it. How beautiful is the world outside and it is our right to enjoy each moment of this wonderful life. Our matured but carefree attitude is the key to counter all the drudgeries of modern life. It woke up the true self which was sleeping while pursuing the aims and objectives made by the society. It also taught me that meditation is not just sitting for some time but it’s that feeling of absolute silence which prevails effortlessly inside us. 
Yes, the silence of morning told me a lot that day and every day.

Get Set Go!

Arise, awake and do not stop until the goal is reached!

                                                                                 Swami Vivekanand

Long back, the above lines were quoted by Swami Vivekanand to motivate the people to rise again and not to quit. Humans are designed to take chances, learn and not to be disheartened with the shortcomings. Success and failures are the parts of life and go hand in hand. Both are necessary as they give learning in life.

With the declaration of UPSC results (or any other exam), some aspirants are disappointed and sad. It’s a normal reaction when things go wrong. But the need of the hour is to come out of this mode and discontinue this phase. This exam requires a lot of dedication, to such an extent that if one does not succeed, one feels that everything is lost. No, it’s not! One must know that any exam is not the life, instead the truth is that life has many facets out of which one is known as exam.

Before moving ahead, consider the following case. Suppose you are given a responsibility of installation of the new LED light bulbs in an area. There are two alternatives available out of which one is to be opted:

Scenario 1: You will install all LED’s on poles situated at one place, so that it will emit the brightest light.

Scenario 2: You will survey the area. Choose different locations to install all the LED’s separately, such that the area where the light of one bulb ends another bulb’s light reaches.

            In the above two scenarios, most of us will choose the case two. Why? It will shine and brighten up the whole area equally and fruitfully. Right?

Let us assume that those bulbs are the brilliant and intelligent minds who had been employed only in one profession, what positive impact and change it might have created? Certainly, a lot, but in a restricted setup. That is, all the development will take place in one particular area. It will make an impact but in restriction. Similarly, if everyone is an IAS or IPS officer, who will be an efficient doctor, engineer, teacher, entrepreneur, writer, NGO worker, journalist etc., society needs all of them.

            On the other hand, if the people are employed in different occupations, uniformly, as given in scenario two. What will be the scene? There will be holistic development. The different institutions of a system will work coherently. And so, the progress will be at fast pace.

This signifies that, if one field has closed its doors for you, it doesn’t mean the end of the world. There are many more avenues eagerly waiting for a person like you. Other sectors also need those brilliant minds with selfless service and noble missions. If you have a finer and nobler objective to choose as an occupation don’t worry, you will achieve it. But for that, you must buck up yourself. You must again stand and survey the possibilities. Have immense confidence in yourself, so that you can start afresh.

          Just think, if the father of the nation, Mahatma Gandhi ji would have been satisfied to continue only as a lawyer, could he ever bring the remarkable change in Indian history? He had a responsibility to take decision not only for himself but also for the masses. It was a tough task to do with dwindling probabilities. But the halts could not bound him in chains of sadness and despair, because he had the larger dream of “free nation” always twinkling in his eyes.

            If Dr A. P. J. Abdul Kalam in his childhood had thought that he would dwell only in the limitations of his childhood, just as an ordinary fellow, he might never have created history in the world of science and for the entire country. As an eminent scientist he introduced a new direction to the space programs and as an efficient President, he shaped the future of the country for a better tomorrow and inspired millions of young minds.

Never stop fighting until you arrive at your destined place – that is, the unique you. Have an aim in life, continuously acquire knowledge, work hard, and have perseverance to realise the great life.

A. P. J. Abdul Kalam

One can argue well these heroes are the matters of the past and may be rare among millions! What about the present time?

            Let us remember that Dr Prakash Amte and Dr Mandakini Amte have been living in interior part of Gadchiroli district of Maharashtra for 46 years. Despite being doctors with a bright future ahead, they chose to live very humbly among the unknown, the most neglected and downtrodden tribe Madia Gonds (living in Gadchiroli district of Maharashtra and some parts of neighbouring states of Telangana and Madhya Pradesh). They had altogether different culture, lifestyle and language. The views of societal benefit and community development of both Amtes, their strong determination and the constant hard work reformed the tribal community towards a better and happier life.

       An engineer and education reformist Sonam Wangchuk founded Students’ Educational and Cultural Movement of Ladakh (SECMOL) in Ladakh in 1988. After his graduation he went back and opened the above-mentioned school for the training and shaping the minds of future, the children. He introduced the unique educational system, based and linked with daily observations, structured upon the base of practical approach.

            The list is never exhausted. India is a land of many sung and unsung heroes who always stood up after failures, chose the roads less travelled, brainstormed the alternatives and brought prosperity in their chosen fields. Look around yourself and you will find millions of people in different fields (viz teachers, doctors, scientists, entrepreneurs, social workers, farmers, even a housewife etc) with noble missions, bringing about the change.

If the dream is big and noble, aiming towards a positive change, whatsoever may be the area, the impact will certainly be visible. The only thing is you require immense faith in yourself. You have the potentials to achieve great goals of life. Setbacks and failures are part of life. Even a child learns to walk only by falling again and again, overcoming his/her fears. Don’t be afraid of hard work and tough times ahead, because the field which you pursued so far was equally tough and needed hard work.

            Don’t give up as you have the potentials and the “right will” (one of the preaching of the Gautam Buddha’s Ashtangika Marg). What is desired, is self-belief and right action. Brainstorm afresh and choose the right direction, pursue it wholeheartedly and dedicate yourself totally. It is not as easy task, but not impossible either.

The journey is never comfortable for the heroes!

            It is true that many times you might feel demotivated, don’t worry, it is mere a phase, a cycle of life, will pass soon. “Waqt ye bhi guzar jayega!

Be patient with time, “If winter comes, can spring be far behind?” Meanwhile be hopeful and positive minded.

Don’t let your spirits be low, as your dreams are still waiting for you! The bright future is eager to welcome you.

Your dream still believes on you and is sitting alone for your company.

Rise, stand, run towards it with greater courage and determination and take your dreams with you to the future you imagined.

Always Remember:

 It's OK to fall,
It's OK to fail,
It's OK to encounter shortcomings.
But,
It's NOT OK to not to rise again,
It's NOT OK to not to try again,
It's NOT OK to not to have another chance,
It's NOT OK to consider yourself a sufferer.
Rise upright,
Be a Warrior,
Be a Winner,
And empower your dreams,
Because they are waiting for you!

Let us learn from Sarojini Naidu’s always inspiring and motivating lines, whenever we find ourselves in tough times:

                                     Behold! I rise to meet the destined spring,
                                    And scale the stars upon my broken wing!

                                                                                    Sarojini Naidu