कितना अजीब है ना, तुम किसी को खुशी देते चले गए, किसी अपने को दुख देकर। तुम किसी के होंठों पर मुस्कान लाते चले गए, किसी अपने के आंखों में आंसू भरकर। तुम किसी का पेट भरते चले गए, किसी अपने का निवाला छीन कर। तुम किसी को सुलाते रहे, किसी अपने की नींद छीन कर। तुम किसी के साथ इंसाफ करते रहे, किसी अपने को धोखा दे कर। तुम किसी को बेदाग दिखातेे रहे, अपने अजीज पर लांछन लगाकर। तुम किसी को सुकून देते रहे, किसी अपने को दर्द देकर। तुम किसी का खयाल रखते रहे, किसी अपने का नुक्सान कर कर। तुम किसी का साथ देते रहे, किसी अपने को तनहाईयों में डाल कर। तुम किसी को समझते रहे, किसी अपने को अंजान बना कर। तुम किसी को आगे बढ़ाते रहे, किसी अपने को रौंद कर। तुम किसी को बचाते रहे, किसी अपने का गला घौंट कर। तुम किसी को सुरक्षित रखते रहे, किसी अपने को हमेशा के लिए दफना कर। यह बात भी सच है कि, पूछने से आखिर होगा भी क्या? क्यों कि मैं तो चुप ही थी। कल भी, आज भी, जब तुम मुझको हमेशा ही, गुनहगार कह कटघरे में, भरी सभा में खड़ा कर गए। क्या पता, तुम मुझको या मैं तुमको, कौन किसको ना समझ सका। स्नेहा
Author: Sneha
I am a writer who loves to knit words in order to express everyone’s hidden feelings in this complicated world.
I introspect, take rebirth like phoenix and overcome my fears, failures with more courage and self belief.
जिसने अपनी मंजिल खुद ही बनाई।
उम्मीदों का ये जहाँ सारा, है उसी का जो है दिलजला। देख कठिनाईयां, परेशानियां, वो दुगनी गति से चल पड़ा। हिम्मत है मित्र उसकी, दृढ़ निश्चय है भाई। न रुका, थका, थमा, हारा वह, मायूसी न उसके मुख पर छाई। चला अकेला, मदमस्त मनचला वह, जब भी मदद न उसने पाई। जग ने टोका, बोला- "अरे मूर्ख न पाओगे कुछ, गिरकर किसने है मंजिल पाई?" मुस्कुराकर, वह बोला- "कुंदन वही जो तपे अग्नि में, कहां अकेला मैं? साथ हैं, मेरे मित्र और भाई! जग में पाया शीर्ष उसी ने, जिसने अपनी मंजिल खुद ही बनाई।" स्नेहा
A Tribute to Mr. Irfan Khan
India lost one of the true gem today. He was not only a brilliant, polished actor but also a great and humble human being. He got numerous awards namely Padma Shri, India’s fourth highest civilian honour for his contribution to the field of arts in 2011 and many others like National Film Award, Filmfare Awards etc. He was Mr. Irfan Khan.
I wouldn’t go into his personal details rather would like to write from the perspective of a fan, an admirer who observes and learns from him and his life. Today, my first reaction to the news of his passing away was a shock. I was aghast and sorrowful. Thereafter still engrossed in this state, some thoughts came into my mind as if Mr. Khan himself was enlightening me with few takeaways just as he used to communicate via his movies.
Time: Is it precious?
He was 53 and is no more at such a young age. It is saddest thing. But what should we learn from this? He exhibited how to live, invest and enjoy each moment of life.
I wrote “live” and “enjoy” as he was the person who never used to spread his sufferings to others. He always laughed out loud and cracked jokes in order to manage and maintain smile and happiness in the lives of people.
I even wrote “invest“. It is because its true that he had less time to perform on the stage of life. Yet, he bought each moment of that drama. He worked hard with full dedication, investing and utilizing each second constructively.
We must learn this quality. Why to be anxious and remorse about what future do we have or how much life we have or how much uncertainty is there in the life to come? Just live this moment, give your 100 percent to this very moment. There must not be the repentance of even a single second like “had we put a little more effort, things would have been different.” As I always say life is a blessing by the Almighty to us. We are special that we are born as humans. Then why to waste such a precious gift?
Perseverance and Positive Mindset
Mr. Irfan khan wanted to be a cricketer but due to some reasons he couldn’t (heard). In the year 1988, he starred a small role in a movie named, “Salaam Bombay!” But he got his breakthrough after starring in movie “The Warrior” in 2001.
No, I am not saying that in between these years, there was no good work done by him. I am sure there might be. But what I am trying to highlight is, it could not be a cake walk for him. He was a man with normal looks, not a celebrity looks for sure. He was also not a person with some support in Bollywood industry, I guess. Yet he not only survived but thrived and shone. He must have gone through many highs and lows, failures and successes. But this man who walked confidently through the narrow lane of failures leaped to the apex of success and fame. All due to his positive attitude and never say never attitude.
His constant pursuit led him to perform in both Bollywood and Hollywood movies. He did the challengable roles, the roles which were not an easy tasks to do.
And so, today he is amongst the top well acclaimed actors.
How many of us embrace our failures, learn from them and walk again? How many of us stand again after a fall? For those who do, don’t worry for sure one day life will present you all awards for your positive journey.
Dedication: Do we have
Mr. Khan’s dedication as we have already seen above, that how committed he was for his work.
Let us visualize his last days. He was detected cancer in the year 2018. He underwent his treatment for the same. He was a born fighter. He was fighting with this disease. While he was having treatment, he had to come back to India to complete one of his movie named, “Angrezi Medium”. He was going through chemotherapy during the days of shooting. He was a great actor, he could have denied it. But not only he completed his movie. He also maintained his humourous, casual habit of making fun and spreading laughter for free within his vicinity.
We bother about our small pains and sufferings, relentlessly discuss and feel why we are the ones suffering! Instead try to be like him. World is already full of sorrows. Why not to share love, care and joy even if we ourselves are at pain. Pain subsides when we pass on smiles to others. For sometime we forget the pain and enjoy our life while making others happy. Try to do that someday and feel the pleasure and inner satisfaction.
We learned many virtues from this man of big heart. He was a great actor and has for sure enlisted his name in the book of golden names. His presence will surely be missed today and in future. But the best tribute to him will be to enlighten the virtues of this man inside each of us. And this thing applies to anyone who has gone far from us. If we wish to pay tribute to such a dear person, imbibe his or her good qualities and live a quality and motivating life of which that person would feel proud of!
Mr. Irfan Khan, the whole world will miss you. A gem has shifted his abode on earth to the home of Almighty! May your soul rest in peace!
आखिर कुसूर क्या था मेरा?
रात के सन्नाटे में, जब अंधेरा था गहरा । दिल के दहलाने वाले दर्द ने, उस काली रात से पूछा: "क्यों, मुझे ही क्यों चुना तूने, आखिर कुसूर क्या था मेरा?" रात की तन्हाई ज़ोर से हंसने लगी, बोली, "अगर सुन पाए तो आज तू सुन, मैं बतलाऊ कि कुसूर क्या था तेरा, मगर ज़रा संभलना कहीं तेरे, कानों से खून ना बह निकले। अपने टूटे सपनों को, उन खुदगर्ज रिश्तों से। अपने खाली हाथों को, उन झूठी सौगातों से। अपने बेरंग ज़िन्दगी को उन फीके रंगों से । बंजर सूखी आंखों को, खून की नदियों से भरने चली। यह था कुसुर तेरा। तूने उड़ान भरने की कोशिश की, जब की तू रौंदने के लिए बनी थी। तूने अपना विश्वास गिरवी रखा वहां, जहां सिर्फ झूठ का अस्तित्व था। तूने अपना हाथ बढ़ाया वहां, जहां हाथों की बलि चड़ती थी। तू उस शहर में बसने गई, जहां रिश्ते सिर्फ बिकते थे। अरे जा, जा तू है कुसुरवार, जो पैदा उस दुनिया में हुई, जहां रिश्तों का व्यापार होता है, और वायदे तोड़े जाने वाले खेल। ज़िन्दगी में एक बार फिर तूने, बेखौफ और सुहाने सपने पिरोए। तूने एक ऐसे शख्स को ज़िन्दगी बनाया, जिसके लिए तू सिर्फ एक और लड़की थी। क्या कुसूर था तेरा, तो सुन आज फिर बताऊं: तेरा निश्चल विश्वास, तेरी सच्चाई, तेरी मुस्कुराहट, तेरे वायदे, तेरा इंतज़ार, तेरा खुश होना, तेरा सुकून, तेरा जीने की उम्मीद करना, तेरा किसी के लिए मारना, तेरा ढकोसले ना करना, तेरा दिखावा ना करना, तेरा धोखेबाज ना होना, तेरा किसी के दर्द को अपना लेना, तेरा किसी अपने के लिए दिल धड़कना, तेरा किसी अपने के लिए सांसे चलना, तेरा किसी को बेइंतहां प्यार करना, यह सब था कुसूर तेरा। जब तू बनाई ही गई थी पत्थर, तो उस पत्थर में जान डालना था, कुसूर तेरा।" स्नेहा
Perfect Time To Invest
With the current situation of lockdown going on, most of us are enclosed in the boundaries of our respective homes. It becomes a question sometimes how to pass the time. But, this is the perfect time to invest in one thing so as to ripe huge benefits in future. That thing is “Relationships”.
Due to our busy routines and hectic schedules it has been rather difficult to manage the time for our relationships in the modern era. The cost of upgradation of our lifestyles and monetary status is somewhere paid by our dear ones.
We being at home can now manage and maintain this genre in a refined manner. But, not all are living together under one roof. Broadly speaking there are two types of relationships:
People living together
- Parents and their children:
The young parents are sometimes unable to give proper time to their child. This results in complicated child psychology viz growing feeling of loneliness, agression, anger, lack of adjustment, possessive nature and increasing intolerance.
Spend time with your kids, be a part of their lives this time. It is good for elders also to become childlike again. Know your child, be his or her friend, guide the little one with love, brush up his or her skills etc. This will help them to be a sorted out person. Also it will relax you and will lit innocent joy inside you again. Let your children spend more time with real people than virtual humans or friends in mobiles and televisions.
Often the time spent between parents and their children reduces as we age due to complexities of life. Our parents become alone when they need us the most. They suffer from extreme loneliness and sadness and thus become old early. They miss their children and want an ear to listen their meaningful or not so meaningful talks, a helping hand in their activities, a support to feel safe during illness, a cushion to absorb their increasing rigidity and stubbornness.
Also we, the children living miles apart due to our studies and work, miss living with the dear parents. This void can be filled today.
2. Relationship between couples:
In a similar scenario of busy schedules, the partners (husband wife or live-in couples) are unable to spend the precious loving time with each other. The plans are missed, so the memorable dates. The relationship becomes boring and dull. There is no freshness left. This results in increasing stress, quarrels and negativity, replacing the love and positivity between them.
To retain that spark it’s necessary to know the other person. And this learning is a continuous process, the moods, manners and likings are continuously modifying. Thus, spend time to know the partner in their respective spaces, learn to adapt with few things which you may not personally like, give surprises sometimes doing what your partner likes, understand how to manage the differences in the best possible manner and the best thing is just talk, talk, listen, listen, listen, this is the remedy to remain happy, just talk less and listen more.
Tenporary long distance relationships (due to present scenario)
Not all are living together under one roof during this time. There are few couples and lovebirds (boyfriends and girlfriends) not by the side of each other. They are not able to spend time together. Time is not the same for them as earlier. But, this time and distance is also letting you to check the depth of your relation and what’s the role of other person in your life. This situation will perfectly measure the trust and dedication of partners when not together. Living distance apart allows the partner to know whether they are bound by serious thread of love.
Also, each one of us have our individual lives. Living together or meeting frequently often makes the partners to loose this individuality. It is necessary to live both the individual as well as mutual life simultaneously, and not to invade the personal space every time. Agree, that this relation is a special one but not at the cost of other relationships. Each relation has a special role and place in a person’s life. When this is understood, there is more sync and harmony between the partners. But here also, there is a key. The advent of technology is a boon here. Be connected just like real but virtually. Give space and better learn about other person.
So in a way for all, there is a way to improvise any relationship. If you see positive, you will get positive. Live, laugh, learn and buy this time to earn more in your respective relationships.
All the best!
कोरे कागज़ पर लिखी, वो अधूरी कहानी।
सुबह सुबह की चाय की प्याली, डायरी के कुछ पुराने पन्ने, दिल के करीब एक कोरा कागज़, जिसमें थी एक अधूरी कहानी। दो अधूरे अजनबी परिंदे, और उनकी अधूरी यादें। शर्माती, झुकती हुई निगाहें, उनके काजल की वो अधूरी कशिश। वो किसी की उंगलियां गिटार के तारों को छेड़ती हुई, मानो कानों में कहे कुछ लफ्ज़ अनकहे। ये जानते हुए की कोई मरता है, इतराते हुए वो बालों को अधूरा सहलाना। कभी ना खत्म होने वाली, कुछ अधूरी खूबसूरत लम्बी बातें। एक साथ कहीं बैठ कर, वो अधूरे से ख्वाब बुनना। किसी कॉफी टेबल की इर्द गिर्द, दो शक्स और उनकी अधूरी स्ट्रॉन्ग कॉफी। पनीर की वो सब्ज़ी किसी को खिलाना, दूसरे का पेट अधूरा होते हुए भी भर जाना। कुछ खाली सड़कों का लम्बा सफर, बाईक के पहियों का वो अधूरा मकसद। किसी एक के चोट लगना या गिर जाना, और दूसरे की अधूरी सी तकलीफ। चेहरे की वो हल्की शिकंद पढ़कर, किसी का अधूरे लफ्ज़ सुन लेना। परेशानी में झुझते हुए देख कर, अधूरा "में हूं ना" का सुकून दे जाना। अधूरी ख्वाहिशें, वो अधूरी बहस, अधूरी लाचारी, अधूरे झगड़े, अधूरा रूठना, अधूरा मनाना, अधूरे तीन अन्मोल लफ्ज़, अधूरा गले लगाना। सच में, अधूरी ही थी ये दास्तां, तभी तो कोरे कागज़ पर उकेरी है। अधूरी ज़रूर है मगर सच्ची भी है, तभी तो अधूरे से पूरे तक का सफर अभी बाकी है। स्नेहा
Decide, what you want?
It’s been more than three months approximately and the whole world is still trying to combat a pandemic crisis. Time has been tough and challenging for us. Sometimes it feels like time has stopped.
But time is a great healer. With each day passing on, it is significant that we will succeed. After all each dark night is followed by a bright morning. We must hold our hopes tighter. It’s natural to fear, it’s okay to loose courage, but be like a warrior and rise again. Your fear and lows must not pull you deep down, but you must take a flight to the high sky.
I believe that every situation or exposure teaches us the golden rules of life. This global crisis is also providing us few learnings which if are adopted can make a better tomorrow.
Humans, with the aid of technology off lately started taking things for granted especially the nature and it’s other factors. If we analyze the past few years, the nature has been warning us by some natural calamities like forest fires, sea upsurge, uneven climate and rains, rising extreme temperatures, high levels of pollution etc. But we have adapted to a habit of ignoring small signs of warning. Why? Because we somewhere believe that we are sufficiently powerful to deal with anything. Nature for humans was a thing at their disposal. We forgot that we beings were a part of nature and not it’s owners. We must respect it and live in harmony, instead we exploited nature and our fellow beings devastatingly.
So, with a very microscopic creature named Coronavirus, nature has reminded us about our role on Earth. It showed that no matter how many weapons we manufacture or advancements are done in technology, we still are the part with limited powers.
The result is for the past few months, humans are caged in open prisons called homes and nature and its fellow beings are out in open. The highly ambitious human is having only one desire – to survive today. All our luxuries and so called needs and demands are curtailed to having basic necessities along with food availability for today.
With handful of humans living in their prescribed circles, we can see: clean water bodies, presence of dolphins on shores of water bodies globally, wildlife easily roaming around in forests and sometimes in cities, Olive Ridleys on eastern shores of India, balanced air quality, clean localities with little plastics, vibrant visual of sky and stars at night, greenery all around, chirping of birds instead of noise of rushing vehicles etc. Only a few days of we being underground, these changes are visible.
But the question is have we learned something from this? Have we understood that we are not the masters of Earth? Did you realize that humans are tiny creatures, similar to others for nature. Nature was always most powerful, it still is and will always be. We took it lightly but if it will take us lightly anyday, it will be a fraction of second before we get invisible.
Learn to have mutual symbiotic relationships and respect for nature and its players. In Indian mythology and prayers, before any auspicious event we take the permission from nature. We recognise that if there is a will of nature, we can proceed and not vice versa.
We still are living when chained inside the walls of our homes. It signifies that mad race of humans never had a real destination but a virtual, man made goal image. Survival still is possible with peace and harmony all around. Respect, if we give then we will get. Otherwise we have seen the trailer, I am sure none of us want to see the whole movie. Decide, whether we wish to be blissful survivors or destroyers of our human race.
Do live happily and let others (nature and it’s other species) also be happy. That’s the one and only way for the whole human race to enjoy it’s freedom and space for centuries.
The Morning Friends
I woke up with the alarming clock telling me that, “It’s time to wake up dear. We, your friends are waiting for you.” I smiled and took a view outside the window. “Good Morning friends!”, as I whispered to them, they started sharing their comforting and encouraging virtues.
The clock initiated, “Always keep a track of each second, don’t loose the hold. Hold time with it’s head and you will succeed.”
As I stepped outside, the night was converting into early dawn and the view was amazingly beautiful. They waved and said, “Be beautiful inside out like us. Maintain a perfect harmony and balance like us. Embrace the change wholeheartedly as it will bring a better version of yours always.”
The Moon was fading and dull, almost invisible. I felt bad for its condition. Even then it smiled and corrected me, “No my dear! Never feel low. Time will be tough, there will be failures. But you must not forget, when courage is in heart, there is always chance to rise again. It’s a temporary phase which will pass out. Meanwhile prepare, work on yourself and come again with a bang. Like I will meet you at night again.”
The fresh air filled me with freshness all around. It whispered to me, “Be fresh and lively like me. Take in the positivity and spread it all around, people need it.”
The benign cool temperature embraced me and gestured, “Spread the warmth of love of your heart unconditionally to the whole world, humans and nature collectively. Forgive and forget all. You are like me just give comfort to others.” I asked, “But what about me? When someone hurt me, how can I spread love?” It answered, “The ones with pure heart and noble mind are always protected. Don’t worry about who did what, you follow your path, the nature will perform it’s justice.”
By that time my cute little melodious friends was hopping around me. “Hey, come lets enjoy! Be like us, childlike, joyful, filled with hope and melody. The joy keeps us young and adorable. The hope keeps us motivated that by the evening we will surely get something for our living. And the sweet voice makes up the day of anyone or everyone we meet. Even if you perform a small task, do it well. It doesn’t matter that the work you performed was small or big. What matters is how effectively and efficiently you executed it and how proud are you on that work”, said the birds.
I cheerfully started my morning with my friends, playing, giggling and chatting with one another. It was the time for me to start the daily chores.
As I was about to leave, an insightful voice came from behind. I turned and my eyes broadened with brightness. It was the Sun!
“Going without meeting me?”, it questioned. “How can I?”, I answered. The Sun said, “I know, I am a bit late today. Actually I was not. I was hiding behind the clouds and was waiting for my turn to come. Friend, don’t forget to shine! Be confident and have self belief like me. Be disciplined and focussed, aim the goal and hit it. Be persistent like me, for there will surely be a day when your bright shine will fill all this universe. Just keep going!”
And with the precious surprising gifts given by my friends, I started the day.
Couplet: The Destiny of Path
रात तक सारे पंछी उड कर अपने आशियाने पहुंचे, बस रास्ता ही अपनी मंजिल का इंतजार करता रह गया। स्नेहा
Translation:
By nightfall, all birds reached their nests, Only the path kept on waiting for its destination. Sneha
मैं हारती नहीं। (I don’t fail)
मैं निराश होती हूँ, किन्तु हारती नहीं। मैं थोडा ठहरती हूँ, किन्तु चलना बंद नहीं करती। हां, मैं गिरती जरूर हूँ, हां, मैं गिरती जरूर हूँ, किन्तु, ऊंचे मुकामो तक पहुंचना बंद नहीं करती । स्नेहा श्रीवास्तव
The Journey to Learn 